“However mean your life is, meet it and live it; do not shun it and call it hard names.” Thoreau.
People have the agency to change the course of their lives by taking an active role in the requirements of the day. How do you know what those requirements are?
I have found that if I can plan in advance what my requirements are, in a calm moment of clarity rather than in the heat of the moment, I am far more likely to accomplish my goals of the day and era.
Have an understanding that you control your destiny. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. You spin your wheels if you think you can control all factors that play a part in the drama of life. But what you can control is how you face it.
Developing the capacity to cope involves a desire to face things head on.
- My best method to fight the urge to put life off is to make my plans and lists the night before. That way when I am faced with a difficult day that would otherwise paralyze me or keep me down, I have a clear cut plan that I wouldn’t have been able to visualize if I was having to do it from scratch in an environment that would otherwise defeat me before I even start.
- Do the most onerous tasks first thing in the morning. Getting them done opens up your whole day. You don’t spend your time in apprehension and dread, which would otherwise color all that you do get done and increase the chance you would otherwise procrastinate it.
- The time is going to pass anyway – why do ‘hard time?’ You can’t get to the end without the journey. It can be as instructive as the end itself.
- “For a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin – Real Life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life. This perspective has helped me to see there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So treasure every moment you have and remember that time waits for no one. Happiness is a journey, not a destination!” Souza
- Choose to start from where you are. Sometimes you just have to pick yourself up and carry on.
- You can’t help but be aware that there is something you ‘should’ be doing, or opportunities to experience and live. Will you pursue it with all your hear, piece by piece, or will you slack off? There is no such thing as staying in status quo. You are either going forward, or sliding backward. “Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it.” Anais Nin
- Once you sideline yourself, there is a good chance that when you do come back to it, the energy has changed, you will never be able to enter the river of life in the same place as that which you passed by.
- The Hindu mystic Ramakrishna wrote that “The winds of grace are always blowing, but you have to raise the sail.”